How Thoughts Shape Feelings: 5 Easy Steps to Feel Happy in a Conflicting World

Why so many of us struggle to feel happy? Our thoughts act as sculptors of our emotions, chiselling each feeling with precision. Could negative thoughts mould our feelings into anxiety and sadness? Dr Marina Nani explores how the landscape of our thoughts is shaping our emotions. Discover the power of thoughts on emotions and the 5 easy steps to feel happy in a conflicting world.

I remember well my first trip to Niagara Fall. I simply couldn’t think of anything but the awe- inspiring beauty before me. It wasn’t a single inch of mind space left for the complex and often conflicting world outside the beauty that enveloped me. Since, I went back many times and then left again but Niagara Fall never left me.

Feeling good and happy can feel elusive when you are up against everything. Yet, the connection between our thoughts and emotions is crucial in shaping our inner emotional landscape. I recall interviewing a hostage survivor and asking her how she endured over two years of captivity. She explained that she found a good, happy place in her mind, walking on a path covered in red leaves scattered on the ground in autumn. She kept walking in her mind, shuffling the leaves and remained anchored there throughout her traumatic ordeal.

Scientific evidence highlights that while external circumstances influence our feelings, it’s our thoughts that significantly mould how we perceive and react to the world. By learning to manage our thoughts, we can better navigate life’s challenges and foster a sense of happiness—even amidst conflict.

The Power of Thoughts on Emotions

The relationship between thoughts and feelings is deeply rooted in psychology and neuroscience. Cognitive-behavioural theory (CBT), for instance, suggests that our thoughts directly influence our emotions and behaviours. This principle is encapsulated in the “Cognitive Triangle,” which highlights the interconnectedness of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. When we perceive an event or situation, our brain processes this information and generates thoughts based on our experiences, beliefs, and biases. These thoughts then trigger emotional responses.

For example, two individuals experiencing the same event—let’s say a challenging meeting at work—can have vastly different emotional reactions. One might think, “This is an opportunity to learn,” leading to feelings of curiosity and resilience. The other might think “This proves I’m not good enough,” which could evoke feelings of anxiety or inadequacy.

According to a study published in Psychological Science, individuals who actively reframed negative thoughts experienced a significant decrease in stress and an improvement in overall well-being. In this study, participants who practised reframing exercises reported feeling less overwhelmed in challenging situations compared to those who did not. This demonstrates how changing your thought patterns can directly alter emotional experiences.

The Neuroscience Behind Thought and Emotion

From a neurological standpoint, thoughts and emotions are closely tied to activity in the brain’s limbic system—particularly the amygdala, which regulates emotions like fear, anger, and pleasure. Negative thought patterns often trigger the amygdala, producing stress hormones like cortisol and leading to feelings of anxiety or sadness. Conversely, positive thoughts activate the prefrontal cortex, which is involved in higher-order thinking and decision-making. This process can release neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin, which are associated with feelings of happiness and well-being.

Research from the National Institutes of Health shows that individuals who engage in positive thinking not only report higher levels of happiness but also experience improved physical health, including reduced inflammation and a stronger immune system. This further supports the idea that our thoughts have a profound impact on both our mental and physical health.

The Conflict of Modern Life: Why We Struggle to Feel Happy

Today’s world is marked by rapid technological changes, political tensions, and social pressures. The constant barrage of information, much of it negative, can lead to cognitive overload and emotional burnout. A 2021 survey by the American Psychological Association (APA) found that nearly 80% of Americans report feeling overwhelmed by the level of stress in their daily lives, largely driven by the news cycle and social media.

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In such a conflicting environment, it’s easy to fall into negative thought patterns—ruminating on things beyond our control, comparing ourselves to others, or catastrophizing about the future.

These thought traps create a feedback loop of negative emotions, leading to chronic stress, anxiety, and even depression.

Steps to Feel Happy in a Conflicting World

Despite the pressures of modern life, we have the power to reshape our thoughts and, by extension, our emotions. Here are five evidence-based steps to feel happier, even in the face of conflict:

1. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of staying present in the moment, without judgement. Studies show that mindfulness reduces rumination and increases positive emotions by helping individuals focus on the here and now instead of worrying about past or future events. A 2019 study in JAMA Internal Medicine found that mindfulness meditation significantly reduced symptoms of anxiety and depression in participants.

How to do it: Spend 5-10 minutes daily focusing on your breath or sensations in your body. When your mind wanders, gently bring it back to the present moment.

2. Challenge Negative Thoughts

Cognitive reframing, a core principle of CBT, involves identifying and challenging distorted or negative thoughts. Research indicates that people who regularly challenge their negative thinking patterns are better able to manage stress and maintain a positive emotional state.

How to do it: When you catch yourself thinking negatively, ask yourself if there’s another way to interpret the situation. For example, instead of thinking “I’ll never succeed,” try reframing it to “I’m learning, and each mistake brings me closer to success.”

3. Engage in Gratitude Practices

Gratitude has been shown to significantly increase feelings of happiness. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that individuals who wrote down things they were grateful for on a daily basis experienced a 25% boost in happiness levels over 10 weeks.

How to do it: Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you’re thankful for each day. This simple practice can help shift your focus from what’s going wrong to what’s going right.

4. Cultivate Compassion

Compassion toward oneself and others can reduce negative emotions and increase well-being. A study by Stanford University found that practicing self-compassion was linked to lower levels of anxiety and depression and greater overall happiness.

How to do it: Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness when things go wrong. Instead of harsh self-criticism, remind yourself that setbacks are part of being human.

5. Limit Exposure to Negative Media

Excessive consumption of negative news can lead to “headline stress disorder,” a term coined by psychologists to describe the feelings of anxiety and helplessness triggered by news overload. A survey from The Reuters Institute revealed that 38% of people actively avoid news because it negatively affects their mood.

How to do it: Set boundaries for your media consumption. Designate specific times during the day to check the news, and focus on consuming content from reliable, balanced sources.

The Bottom Line: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Feelings

The world may be full of conflict and stress, but by consciously shaping our thoughts, we can cultivate more positive feelings and find happiness. Science tells us that our thoughts are not passive reflections of reality; they actively create our emotional experiences. Through mindfulness, cognitive reframing, gratitude, compassion and media management, we can take control of our mental landscapes and experience greater joy in even the most challenging of circumstances.

By understanding the power of our thoughts, we gain the tools to not only survive but thrive in a world filled with uncertainty. As the famous psychologist William James once said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” The choice is ours—let’s make it a happy one.

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Dr Marina Nani
Dr Marina Nani

Editor-in-Chief of Rich Woman Magazine, founder of Sovereign Magazine, author of many books, Dr Marina Nani is a social edification scientist coining a new industry, Social Edification.
Passionately advocating to celebrate your human potential, she is well known for her trademark "Be Seen- Be Heard- Be You" running red carpet events and advanced courses like Blog Genius®, Book Genius®, Podcast Genius®, the cornerstones of her teaching.
The constant practitioner of good news, she founded MAKE THE NEWS
( MTN) with the aim to diagnose and close the achievement gap globally.
Founder of many publications, British Brands with global reach Marina believes that there is a genius ( Stardust) in each individual, regardless of past and present circumstances.
"Not recognising your talent leaves society at loss. Sharing the good news makes a significant difference in your perception about yourself, your industry and your community."

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