The Afternoon Tea That Changed Everything: Your Story Is Not Your Point of Attraction

My grandfather never read us stories from a book. Every night, he would lower himself into the old wooden chair beside our beds and begin to speak, not to entertain us, but to remember what he felt, what he learned, what nearly broke him and what saved him.

He spoke of the trenches, thick with mud and silence, where fear clung to the skin and you learned quickly who you could trust. He told us how he once dragged a friend to safety with frozen hands, how they wrapped each other’s wounds with bleeding fingers, how they learned to keep each other alive in the dark when hope was the only light left.

He didn’t dramatize those moments. He didn’t need to. The weight of his voice, the unshakable stillness in the room, told us everything. I can still hear him, decades later, not because the stories were structured or eloquent, but because they carried something deeper than memory. They carried a true experience.

That is the part we often miss when sharing a story. It isn’t your story that stays with the audience but the frequency you use when telling it. The way you allow yourself to share your story without expectations. The courage to unlock your energetic currency with total strangers, including yourself.

Your Story Is Not The Point of Attraction

You might argue that we’re not living in wartime. The truth is that wars today may not be fought in trenches, but make no mistakes, each one of us is still fighting. We are fighting to protect our time, our values, our sense of self.

We are navigating burnout, loss, reinvention, invisibility, pressure to stay silent and a world that often rewards performance over substance. This is not the moment for perfectly crafted narratives. In this moment in human history, more than ever before, we need words of inspiration, spoken with clarity. Your identity is shaped by lived experiences and you have to deliver your message with the frequency of someone who resonates with self-leadership. Sharing your story changes your story and those around you. Your story is not what matters. You are.

The Story You Tell Yourself Is Your Point of Attraction

I sat by the ocean Monday afternoon, with a cup of marigold tea, savouring in total silence that beautiful moment when the world feels still, your heart is full echoing with the kind of stories that never quite make it into words. I had just spent five days with a group of remarkable women: leaders, creatives, coaches, entrepreneurs. And yet, as they left, I felt a deep void echoing. I watched the waves moving with that soft rhythm only the ocean can give and I felt a gentle nudge knocking on my door. I couldn’t help but ask myself: What happens with the women who don’t have five days to author their story?

What about the women still powering through their to-do lists, day in, day out? The ones who put everyone first and leave themselves last. The ones who haven’t had a moment to ask themselves a better question:“What is the story I tell myself about who I am, when no one else is listening?”

That is the only story that changes everything. I started to ask myself: How do I share a truth most people miss? Your story isn’t what draws people in. It’s how you tell it—and that requires a real conversation.

What Makes A Story Unforgettable

I’ve spent years working with powerful women, on stage, off stage, in boardrooms, on wellness mats, in Zoom rooms, exclusive retreats and around kitchen tables. For more than a decade the stories I’ve shared in our publications have always returned to one prototype: the woman who has had to rebuild, more than once.

The one who has known heartbreak behind closed doors, cried when no one was looking and still showed up the next morning leading, giving, serving with unshakable love. I’ve written about the woman who leads not through perfection but making a difference. The story of a woman who carries her dream with both, grace and courage, even when the world gives her every reason to let go of both.

What I heard from them over and over again wasn’t a lack of clarity or attention. It was this:

• “I know I have something to say, but I don’t know where to begin.”
• “I want to be seen, but I don’t want to shout.”
• “I want to share my story, but I don’t know if it matters.”

Next day, in the quiet afternoon, with a fresh pot of Earl Grey, I decided to start again. I started to reimagine what it could feel like changing the inner narrative with ease. And just like that, Rich Afternoon Tea 2.0 was born. After listening to thousands of people, I realised that what I remember is not their name or their story, but their energy.

Unfortunately you have been taught to share a good story. To make it neat. To keep it impressive. But in reality, the story isn’t the point of attraction. You Are. A good story isn’t your point of attraction, but the exchange of energy is. A signal from one soul to another. You can re-imagine your own story within a simple four steps frame:

• This is what I felt.
• This is what I learned.
• This is what nearly broke me.
• This is what saved me.

The truth is that your story is yours but it belongs to the world. When you tell your story, not the version you think the world wants to hear, craft the one you have carried quietly for years. The story that changed you. The story that I will always remember.

You don’t need to exhaust yourself while trying to figure out what story is right for your audience. Telling your story is not about burning the candle at both ends. You need to find the frequency that captures your true worth and reflects it back to the world with clarity and grace.

About The Rich Afternoon Tea 2.0

The Rich Afternoon Tea 2.0 is a bespoke session happening online, designed to guide both men and women through a gentle but powerful shift:

✔️ Building a magnetic personal brand rooted in the story you tell yourself, about yourself, when no one else is listening
✔️ Designing a PR profile that opens doors
✔️ Becoming a published contributor with global reach
✔️ Featuring in CEO Spotlights and syndicating your story to Google News
✔️ Unlocking exclusive press passes and opportunities

This isn’t about being “media trained.”
It’s about being media ready, making the good news in your own voice, for your own purpose, in your own time and leaving the rest to our team.

Whether you are in leadership, wellness, finance, tech, creativity or simply decided to reset, you have a message and a mission and you belong in this room.

Join the next Rich Afternoon Tea 2.0 Let’s choose to be visible together and find the clarity to deliver the intention to attract the right audience. So if you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it. Put the kettle on. Pick your favourite cup. Bring your story. I’ll be there, waiting for you.

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